What are the best ways to handle verbal abuse?
62COMPASSION
The Dailah Lama has a crazy answer for dealing with argumentative and abusive people, but I sort of like it. Compassion is one of the things that Buddhists hold in high regard and spend a lot of time developing. If someone is argumentative or abusive there can be many reasons for it, they obviously have some problem. No-one can be happy if they're argumentative and abusive with others. If you retaliate you also become unhappy and it can ruin your whole day. The person is actually giving you an opportunity to show compassion. So if someone is abusive to you give them a little money. You have shown generosity and compassion which makes you happy they have received a little money so they are happy. Have a nice day!
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Actually this is right. I have a hub myself about verbal abuse from a bully boss. And i have noticed that on 3 occasions, I gave him gifts (a Christmas tree for his office, some artwork with his grandkids names on it, and a 1930 picture of the Capitol)...On those THREE days he was somewhat (I emphasize) decent.
I'm not sure how well that will work in a domestic abuse situation, however, particularly if the abused are so beaten down they have nothing left to give.
Patty Inglish, MS Level 7 Commenter 4 years ago
That's a refreshing take on the situation! I think the person being abusive would be very surprised with the money, which would give them pause and perhaps they would reconsider the scenario. Thanks very much for this delightful input.